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Question by Justin: Should I apologize for making a comment that was true but hurtful?
My ex and I have been apart for almost a year now, and it ended on painful terms (as most do).
Basically in Jan. 10′ we took a break from each other, and we were still living together. During that time she definitely took advantage of the feelings she knew I still had for her, as it was she that wanted to take the break. Well, in april of that year, she said I should leave the apartment, save money, and “work on myself”, and by summers end “we’ll figure it out”. I really didn’t want to believe it, but I sensed that she was trying to kick me out for good.
So that summer, I took up 3 jobs, working my ass off, so I could be more financially comfortable when I moved back in. Again, I was naively optimistic that I was coming back.
In august, on my birthday, she said she was flying to Europe, and wanted to know if I wanted to pay to live there for that month while she went on vacation.
I was REALLY confused by this, as my emotions wanted me to do it, but of course I refused because it was a plain out ridiculous request, especially to ask a”friend” to do this. She was put off on this, and was upset because she could have used that money to extend her trip.
Oh, I’m sorry logic interfered with your getaway plans. Anyways, I DID however stupidly agree to spend the night at the apartment and drive her to the airport at 4am on my birthday, knowing full well I had a full work day ahead of me. Yeah. I know. I deserve the hurt for that one! Anyways, it turned out that she was going there to be with some guy and have a summer fling. I found this out much much later. When she returned at the end of summer, I said I’m ready to “work things out” and she dropped the “its not a good idea” bomb on me. I was crushed to say the least. Anyways, even after all of this, she still tried to take advantage of me months later, asking me to watch her pets while she went to europe to be with this guy, and it really put me off. She basically only talked to me when she wanted something done for her, and after I had let on that it wasn’t going to work, she blocked me from all communications. Fine with me.
SO, what brings me here? Well, some time has passed, I thought I was dealing fine with things that had occurred over the past year. A week ago, I read some things on her blog that indicated that her “european friend” was in town and staying at the apartment. This brought back some raw emotions, and I reacted. I fired off a purely emotionally charged anonymous put down,addressing her penchant for manipulating people. She figured it was me, and fiercely stated that we will never have contact again. I still don’t even desire a friendship with this person, as friends wouldn’t treat each other like that, but I find myself regretting the comment I made, as it did not make me feel better, and caused this person pain. And despite what I had been through, no one deserves to feel that way, and its been on my mind. Should I apologize? I’ve considered letting it go, as I don’t care for any acquaintance at all. But at the same time, apologizing would show “grace” and maturity, and might make me feel better, though it would go unwanted, as she clearly stated she wants no communication whatsoever.
I believe that any chance of mending or rebuilding anything came and went a long time ago, and this sealed it.

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Answer by ANGRY.
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